THE MYTH OF SELF CONTROL
Psychologists say using will power to achieve goals is overhyped. Usually when temptation overcomes will power, it’s an ethical failing, valuable of punishment. Human beings are horrible at resisting temptation. Effortful self-control, where you are fighting yourself, the benefits of that are overhyped. Many researchers these days are making a strong case that we shouldn’t feel bad when we fall for temptations. “There’s a strong supposition still that exercising self-control is beneficial, whereas researchers show in the long term it’s not.” Studies have found that trying to teach people to resist temptation either only has short-term growth or can be absolute breakdown. Surveys show that one should stop worshipping self control and on the contrary one should start thinking of diluting the power of temptation and helping people meet their goals in new ways and less effort. Our perfect model of self-control is angel on one side and devil on the other and they battle it out. Actually the people who are really comfortable never have these battles at first place. The people who said they outclass at self-control were hardly using it at all.
According to a study, the students who exerted more self-control were not more successful in accomplishing their goals and also reported feeling more depleted and was also exhausted from trying. The people who have the illusion that they have self-control are rather not living their life. If a person has a control on one aspect of life, it will lead him to an illusion of controlling other aspects of life. Self-control begins with an illusion and ends with an illusion and ultimately one loses the battle. One usually tries self-control to prove oneself to someone and is successful only for short-term which works superficially. Now, the question is Why to control? Just live life “Here & Now” and be yourself. Instead of practicing self-control, one should learn the skill of Self-Discipline. Self-Discipline lets you live in the real world and benefit you in the long-term.